Simpin After Dark
Daddy Issues

Daddy Issues

June 23, 2021

This is technically episode 1 of season 4, BUT, think of it more as a preseason episode before I come back in August with regularly scheduled episodes. I'm talking "daddy issues" in honor of Father's Day which just happened this past weekend. I get into Rihanna's song "Kiss It Better" off her ANTI album and use it to show how her relationship with her dad affected her adult relationships, specifically the one with Chris Brown. It's such an amazing song with so much emotion and too many relatable sentiments of pride, desiring affection, and toxic relationships. I talk about how misogyny affects the way children are raised, unhealed trauma, dating guys with kids, all things dad related, and lots more so make sure to tune in!

 

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Bout to Feel the Wrath of a Menace

Bout to Feel the Wrath of a Menace

May 19, 2021

Last episode of the season! Master Steph joins me again to talk all about narcissistic personality disorder (npd), and most importantly the scary real life effects of narcissistic abuse. It can have detrimental effects on the brain and one's mental health. As always we get into some lyrics to get the conversation started, so for this episode we talk Jhené Aiko's "Triggered (Freestyle)". I also played a tik tok made by Lee Hammock (@mentalhealness) to get into the topic of gaslighting, manipulation, and reactive abuse. We also talk about an article that was sent to me about a woman, Vanessa Reiser, who survived narcissistic domestic abuse, who is currently running a marathon in a wedding dress to bring awareness to the topic. Lots of info and important topics to wrap up the season! 

Articles/Pages Referenced & Supplemental Info:

Woman to Run 285 Miles in a Wedding Dress to Raise Awareness for Narcissistic Domestic Abuse

Tik Tok

12 Signs You’ve Experienced Narcissistic Abuse (Plus How to Get Help)

The Overt Versus Covert Narcissist: Both Suck

Narcissistic Abuse: Signs, Effects, & Treatments

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Livin With Your Boo

Livin With Your Boo

May 12, 2021

This episode is dedicated to all of the important things people need to talk about before moving in with their significant other. The lovely VAL, host of the Reflections with VAL. podcast, or Soulfully_VAL on instagram, joined me and blessed me with her experience and knowledge on the topic. Together we went over all the submitted tips people gave me on instagram and dove deep, because there was a lot. We touch on machismo, using babies/moving in together as a "quick fix" to save a relationship, boundaries with having visitors, cleanliness, date nights, splitting bills, personal space etc. As always we went on a few fun tangents talking about sex, the importance of getting to know your body as a woman and other related topics. 

It wouldn't be S.A.D. if we didn't talk about some music so we had to get into WILLOW's new song "t r a n s p a r e n t s o u l" ft. Travis Barker. Tune in for all juicy convos!

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Always Ready For Your Love

Always Ready For Your Love

May 5, 2021

This episode my girl Krystal joins me to talk about Charlotte Day Wilson's song "Take Care of You" ft Syd. It's another simpy one, this song is basically about being so passionately in love with someone who isn't ready for your love quite yet. We talk about how people should always give their all in a relationship even if you've been hurt before cause that's the only way you'll ever find real love again. The conversation takes some wild turns and we get into the topics of porn, masturbation, intimacy & sexual compatibility, dating while being bisexual/queer, staying friends with a friends ex after they break up & lots more!

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Don’t Wanna Be Your Game Boy

Don’t Wanna Be Your Game Boy

April 28, 2021

This episode I'm talking about Alex Mali's song, "Start It Up", from her 2019 EP, Sweet & Sour. Joining me today is the talented Ivan Leon, who is a creative director in Los Angeles. He came through with some wisdom and we had a blast talking about the many facets and current state of dating culture. He's an Aquarius & I'm a Virgo so we get into our similarities and differences when it comes to questions like - Is omitting info the same as lying? How to tell if someone actually likes u or just wants to mess with u? Can it work if family doesn't like u? When is it too soon to tag someone you're dating on Instagram? Should you be loyal in the talking stage? We also answer some listener submitted questions together so tune in to hear us get into this and lots more!

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Need a Real One By Your Side

Need a Real One By Your Side

April 21, 2021

Nightshade Collective joins me once again for a fun episode talking about Yo Trane's song, "Rider" from his 2021 album Time & Space. April & Alexa chime in on the topic of being an "alpha" woman - being independent, making your own money, being outspoken, not taking anyone's bullsh**. A woman who is independent is idealized in so many ways but in reality a lot of people can't handle it. We also talk about being the "naggy" partner and why it's misconstrued and actually a good thing. Then we dive into the dreaded topic of submitting to your partner in a relationship, what it actually means, the benefits, and things to look out for. Leadership is important in a relationship so we talk about that and finding the balance between maintaining independence but still achieving unity.

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When Did I Say I Was Interested?

When Did I Say I Was Interested?

April 14, 2021

I got a solo episode today and I'm talking about Numi's song "Hit Me Up", from 2018. We all know those guys that won't take no for an answer that keep asking you out, so you finally give in but you let them know it's just as friends, and they STILL get the wrong idea. Or the guy that slides in you and all your girls DM's thinking that's the move. Some men cannot read social cues, so that's what I'm talking about today, cause someone needs to help them.

I also get into a tweet that went viral last week about "friendship dates". It was messy so I break it down and give my thoughts. I did a poll on my IG about people who say they're not ready to be in a relationship, and if the "with you" is silent, so I cover the results. Then I respond to a listener's question about when is it too soon to say "I love you" and if it's necessary to say it everyday. Tune in to hear all this and more!

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I Pray You Catch Me

I Pray You Catch Me

April 7, 2021

This episode is all about cheating and staying together. It happens more often than we think, yet it's still frowned upon and shamed, but we don't judge over here, so we're talking about how to make that work, why it happens, and when you should or shouldn't give it a shot. Not all cheaters are created equal so this is not to normalize it at all, but more to give some insight into what it takes and how much work is required to make it to the other side in a healthy way. My guests Ailec & Ayvione are a couple who dealt with cheating in the past and today their relationship is strong with the communication, and they came through with lots of great advice about the growth and emotions they went through together. As always, we talk music, and what better album to talk about than Beyonce's "Lemonade", specifically "Pray You Catch me"?

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Articles referenced during episode:

Katie Moritz - “If One of You Cheated, Is There Hope for Your Relationship?”

Sophia Benoit - “What it’s like to stay in a relationship after cheating”

Candice Jalil - “Can A Relationship Survive Cheating? A New Study Found The Chances Aren't Promising”

Wanna Give You Love

Wanna Give You Love

March 31, 2021

Yung Student Loans joins me on this episode, where we get into anaïs & Azekel's song, "Learn To Love". We also listen to a clip of his latest song "iiWii" and he explains the meaning behind it and why he doesn't f*** with sending generic love songs as a way to be romantic. We talk about his experience being polyamorous, why he doesn't experience jealousy, and the science of threesomes. We also talk all about the Saweetie & Quavo situation, open relationships in Hollywood, Will & Jada, and more.

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Good Day in My Mind

Good Day in My Mind

March 24, 2021

Warning: We discuss certain drugs in this episode, not to promote their irresponsible or illegal use, but to educate and inform people of responsible hypothetical consumption.

This episode I'm talking magic mushrooms & weed, with my girls April Mendoza (my sis) & Master Stephanie. We get into SZA's latest single, "Good Days", and talk all about our experience with shrooms, weed, mental health, staying present, spirituality, psychosis, etc. Steph mentions how important it is to be aware of the drugs u consume and doing research beforehand, especially if you're combining them. Certain drugs can have horrible reactions together and even cause death, whether they're prescription or natural substances. We also talk about how crucial it is to do everything in your life with intention and purpose, specifically mushrooms since they can be so helpful in being introspective and pushing you to come face to face with your inner thoughts and feelings. The relationship we have with ourselves and our inner most demons is a crucial one, and learning healthy detachment is helpful in dealing with heartbreak and accepting the end of a relationship. Continued growth is vital to our happiness and the ultimate goal is to learn to be present and at peace in our minds, so make sure to tune in and hear how "Good Days" gets us feelin.

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If you wanna hear more episodes w Master Steph on Simpin:

Season 2 Episode 8 "At Least You Payin Attention"

Season 2 Episode 19 "Cant' Get Enough"

Season 3 Episode 4 "Ain't Here for Love"

If you wanna hear more episodes w April on Simpin:

Season 3 Episode 5 "Fine Line Between Love & Hate"

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